Baby Hints & Tips

Things Special Needs Parents HATE Hearing

Sometimes we all need to just think before opening our mouths… Here are some things you should never say to a parent that has a special needs child.

“I’m so sorry this happened to you”
Rest assured that pity is one thing these parents do not need from you. Save your apologies for something else. By saying sorry you are implying their child is some kind of tragedy and that is simply not how that parent see’s their child.

“He looks normal to me”
Just because you cannot see a disability, does not mean that it doesn’t exist. There are many disabilities that don’t have visible markers but it certainly doesn’t mean they aren’t there. 

“She should just go to a school for kids like her”
A school like what exactly? And what gives another parent the right to decide to exclude that child? For saying this you should expect a kick to the head… or that person to never talk to you again. It’s rude and incredibly discriminatory.

“He’s just spoilt!”
ASD and other disabilities that have behavioural challenges are not made up. They are not your average temper tantrum and saying this to a parent not only belittles their parenting, it also means you are not acknowledging that child’s diagnosis, which in turn means you’re not helping them thrive. 

“It could always be worse”
Sure… it could be. But so could anyone’s life right?! Don’t trivialize other people’s lives. 

Using the R-word
If you are using this word then I can’t help you. There is no circumstance that using any derogatory terms is okay. Just don’t use ’em. 

Got any stories of silly things people have said to you? Share them below in our comments section.

About the Author:

Alex is your average caffeine addicted mum on a quest to share her experiences and learn from yours. Her world revolves around her baby girl, four-year-old son and hubby Rob. She lives with her family in Sydney's South West and when she's not writing, you can find her engrossed in the latest true crime docu-series or trying to get kids to at least try the broccoli.

Share It With Others

Join The Discussion (0 Comments)

Leave a Reply