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Fear of miscarriage after previous loss

miscarriage fearI have just found out I’m pregnant again with number 4. I’m about 6 weeks. I’m extremely anxious, worried all the time, due to the fact I’ve had 2 very early miscarriages at 5 weeks, the last 2 months. I’m happy to have made it an extra week. But I’m worrying constantly, taking pregnancy tests every week, so scared about going to the toilet in case I see blood. I don’t have hardly any symptoms, which worries me more. How can I stop worrying so much? Has anyone else been through this? How can I stop being so anxious?

  • Can you ask for a scan? I had one at 8 weeks and found it very reassuring to see a heartbeat Melissa
  • I had 4 miscarriages back to back from 9-16 weeks. I’m sorry but it never gets easier. The anxiety doesn’t go away. Try and stay busy and keep your mind active. Don’t dwell on the past and take peoples offer to help if you need it. Sarah
  • I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks with no bleeding and had every symptom you can have, this pregnancy I had no symptoms and bleeding and have a perfectly healthy 8 month old baby. I swear there are no words to make you feel better but good luck and I hope for one sticky baby for you Melanie
  • I went through the same thing, Took us 3 years of TTC until we finally fell pregnant, our daughter was born with quite a few problems so decided to try for another, unfortunately I lost that one at 16 weeks. 2 years later I fell pregnant again, I did the same pregnancy tests every couple of days, scared to go to the toilet, lost that one at 7 weeks, so we gave up. Then I fell pregnant again had another daughter thats now nearly 2 and i’ve just had my 4th daughter 4 months ago. I’m not sure whether my misscarriages were boys and my body cant carry them or not, but I just find with the problems my 2nd daughter had i’m thankful that I have children at all, and as mean as this sounds I much prefer to lose a baby early in pregnancy than later, or after babies born. I just look at is as though there may have been something wrong with the baby or someone knew maybe I wasn’t ready for another. With all 4 of my girls, I wouldn’t have ever known I was pregnant, as I got no symptoms whatsoever bar the big belly Kellie
  • Pregnancy hormones stay In your system for many weeks, even after a m/c so ultrasounds constantly. Melissa
  • I feel for you. I had 2 m/c last year, within 3 months of each other. I am now 20 weeks pregnant and I still worry, even after having several ultrasounds. I don’t think the anxiety ever goes away but try and relax and trust that everything will be ok. I wish you the best of luck and hope things work out for you. Sherrie
  • Look up the PLA Pregnancy after loss page. There are plenty of other people going through the same thing as you. If you are a risk, you may be able to get extra scans or buy a doppler (though these can become all consuming) https://www.facebook.com/groups/159293240927262/?fref=ts Katie
  • I had misscarriage then fell pregnant i was like you i freaked out. I didnt wanna tell anyone cause i was sure that it was going to happen again. But everything went fine. I know its hard but stop stressin an injoy it. Teasha
  • Ask for an ultrasound, I think seeing the heartbeat is very reassuring , if you say you aren’t sure when your last period was or how far along you are, they should send you to have a ‘dating’ scan to calculate due date. Thinking of you, it’s very stressful! Jade
  • I have too been through this and understand the fear and anxiety. Do they know why you miscarriage so early? In my 2 instances i miscarried at 5wks then 7wks. After seeing OB and many tests to rule out uteus, cervix etc we thought may be a progesterone issue. I fell pregnant a third time and found out at 4wks. I started progesterone by 4.5weeks and had a wonderful pregnancy with fraternal twin boys. Each week you pass the past miscarriage in weeks was a sigh of relief. I also had acupuncture with herbs too promote the the uterus and placenta and growth of the embyro. Stay positive, try to push out the thoughts of fear as much as you can. All the best x Lisa
  • I have had 2 miscarriages … One at 5 weeks and one last month at 7.5 weeks…. The worry and anxiety never goes away but you just have to trust it will be ok . I really feel for you it’s horrible Hannah
  • I know how you feel I had 3 miscarriages before baby number 4 I was constantly terrified when I fell pregnant again but I was fine I now have a one year old I wish I had some advice on how to not worry but I was the same as you going to the toilet all the time to check for blood I hope it all goes well for you sending positive thoughts your way and I have everything crossed that all goes well for you and you have a wonderful healthy pregnancy Melanie
  • My doctor suggested an early scan to ease the anxiousness you are feeling. Especially around the same time as previous miscarriage. Suzi
  • Talk to your doctor. Following miscarriages they’ll give you an extra scan to put your mind at ease (a bit…) I know the feeling. Anastasia
  • Stay strong! I had miscarried my first pregnancy with twins. I was full of symptoms. With my 2nd pregnancy I had no symptoms at all, walked on egg shells and my pregnancy resulted in my son. Positive thoughts! Tomara
  • I’m sorry for your losses. That must be horrible. I have lost a bub, and you do have reservations and anxiety. Its important to know that you can do this! I needed reassurance, so my doctor sent me for more ultrasounds than needed, just to keep my mind at ease. They could also track bub better. Try to think positively, I know it’s hard, but that will help with the anxiety and stress. Going for a walk and eat really well, also great for stress. Funly enough Elevit helped, as it has a lot of vitamin 5 which again is great for stress and anxiety. Talk to your doctor about everything you are feeling, they want you stress free. If you don’t get support there, go to the hospital and they have midwives who will be fantastic and be able to help. Take it one day at a time, Good luck, keep busy and smile xxx Lauren
  • I’ve recently heard some acupuncturists can help babies ‘stick’. I really pray this baby makes it all the way. Rest and do some things to pamper yourself. X Viviene
  • I know exactly how you feel in eight and a half weeks and i am terrified of a miscarriage! Ive never experienced one and i really don’t want to either!!… This is my second pregnancy and my third child… Just breathe babe pm me if you need too. Kate
  • omgosh this made me cry..i have just came out of hosp after my 2nd eptopic in 4mnths both at 6wks & the doc advised me that next time i’am to get an ultrasound at 6wks to see where the baby is planted..goodluck praying for you Misty
  • After two healthy babies, i had three miscarriages in eleven months. When we found out we were pregnant with number three (a very healthy 2 year old now) i was so anxious and barely did anything for the first trimester. I understand what you mean about being anxious and going to the toilet etc. I did my best to think good things and expect good things. We now have four healthy children. hang in there. believing and praying for a healthy strong full term baby for you. Danielle
  • Like everyone else all I can suggest is to try and stay relaxed. Stress is the last thing you need during pregnancy. Some methods of staying calm and not stressing could be (my personal favourite) yoga, going for strolls with your other children and perhaps reading? Try to enjoy the pregnancy as much as you can I am sure everything will be fine and lots of love to you and your family! Nicole
  • I too had two miscarriages and worried a ton. I currently have three beautifull daughters and just hit 36 weeks pregnant with my fourth daughter ! Don’t stress it makes it worse . If something happens then so be it . I was extremely cautious in the beginning . This is my husband and I first baby together . My youngest is 8 years old ! Just take care of you and that baby and before you know it you Will be where I an at 23 days till we meet our baby girl ! Good luck momma :-)) Nicole
  • I can certainly relate , we experienced 4 miscarriages . The only thing I can say is my other 2 children helped the time pass. However every hour , everyday felt like a lifetime . I was always terrified of going to the loo. I also had no pregnancy symptoms , I was desperate to feel sick . I had period pain with the baby that made it in the early weeks of conceiving so it’s not always a bad sign . Hoping so much this baby is a stayer . Good luck Marsela
  • Don’t have a scan before 7 weeks, as there will not be a heartbeat yet. Simone
  • I had a missed miscarriage that was found at nine weeks. Had that cleared up and was pregnant two months later was so stressed out until I saw that baby on the ultrasound, just do your best to keep positive. Jamie
  • I was the same way when I was doin ivf I’d miscarried and was bleeding on and off through my second pregnancy I too was the same constantly checking but in the end I just thought if it’s meant to be it will be stressing just makes things worse ask your doctor for a early ultrasound Laura
  • I had a very understanding doctor. After 2 miscarriages, I starting bleeding at 6 weeks. I stressed through the whole pregnancy. My doctor understood this. He said that he would see me every week if that helped me. I didn’t do that but tried to enjoy being pregnant rather than worry about everything. I had an ultrasound at every appointment and had several tests to monitor bubs heart beat. I wasn’t 100% happy until I held her in my arms. All I can say is try not to stress to much and enjoy being pregnant. I know, much easier said than done though Trish
  • I’ve had 2 miscarriages:( When I fell pregnant after my miscarriages I asked my Ob. Doctor to see me every week for an ultrasound until I was 12wks. It defiantly cost, but it was worth every cent as it kept me from being worried & stressed if bub was ok. Also there’s no point doing pregnancy tests because even if u do miscarry ( really hope u don’t) the test will always be a positive result as yr body will still have all of those pregnancy hormones for I think about 1 month after u miscarry. Kerry
  • Take everything as it comes. Think positive as much as you can.. seek help and support.. keep your mind active.. dont keep doing tests.. cry when you need to.. dont hold it all in.. make sure you tell hubby how your feeling.. try not to stress.. dont be over cautious… just take everything as it comes and breathe.. pm me if you like xxx And I have been through this for now three pregnancies. I am currently 25 weeks pregnant… I still worry.. its normal and it means your human…. hold on.. stay strong.. xoxo Sammi
  • I would ask for a scan , I miscarried in jan at 6 weeks then fell pregnant with in 2 weeks after the loss , felt just like you was so scared to tell anyone other my my husband , freaked cause I had NO symptoms at all ,,, I didn’t relax until 4 months , only thing they eased me was hearing his heart beat & that I popped early ,,, go push for a scan , hope all goes well xx Shelly
  • When I was pregnant with my bubby I was constantly scared of something happening to him… Thru my whole pregnancy and I’ve never had a miscarriage. I think it’s a thing some women go thru… I was scared my whole pregnancy, and hasn’t stopped since (he’s 5.5 weeks) I’m constantly making sure he’s still alive… I really hope your pregnancy goes to term… if your really worried tho ask for a scan… Nicole
  • I bet i sound repeatative. If You Can get hold of a book Called Stay Healthy by supplying whats lacking in your diet Researched by David Coorey it Reccomends Certain Vitamins and Minerals to both take and avoid for Pregnancy to Help Prevent miscarriage and Have A Healthy Pregnancy and Baby. It also has a reccomendation for Anxiety and other forms of Stress both Physical and Mental. Blessings Healing Blessings Ladonia
  • If your going private your ob will do weekly ultrasounds to ease your anxiety. Did it with all my 3 babies. Melissa
  • I m/c with my first pregnancy ever at 9wks. Scared the crap out of me. I did one dose of the depo shot after and was pregnant less then 6 months after. I went through the fear of the toilet and taking tests to make sure my horomone level was still up. I tried my best not to stress, even when the doctor called and post poned a week because the ultrasound machine broke. I got everything going with my medical and tried to stay positive, that’s about all you can do. I remember how relieved I was to hear the heartbeat at 15 weeks. I am now 21weeks with a healthy baby and doc says everything looks great! #staypositive #o-negative Megan
  • I went through the same thing and I was having scan more frequently due to this I was told after my eldest I couldn’t have more children and I had 4 miscarriages then I fell pregnant with my daughter and then went on to have a set of twins too. The beat thing to do is just try and keep calm as stressing yourself will not do you any favours I found just trying to do my normal things helped. Good luck to you xx Catherine
  • You poor thing. I never went through this but when I was about 6 weeks with my second I started bleeding. I was beside myself, and to make it worse my hubby had told his family we were pregnant. Everything turned out fine, I wasn’t as far along as I thought and it was the embryo implanting in my uterus. Keep strong. If it’s meant to be it will be fine, otherwise there is a reason, you may never know what it is but chin up Meagan
  • Ask your doctor for hcg tests. Get a blood test weekly to make sure tour levels are rising as they should be! Amanda
  • When we were trying for number 4 we had 1 miscarriages also. We then fell pregnant off the 2nd miscarriage and I too worried but everything went well. We had a 6, 8, 12 and 20 week scan. We now have a beautiful 2 year old who has completed our family. All the best with your pregnancy. Carlie
  • I went through this after I lost a baby at 8 months gestation I panicked the whole next pregnancy but u finally gave birth to a baby boy in June this year our families number 4 baby Rebecca
  • i miscarriaged our second at 5 weeks and now am 8 weeks tomorro and have requested a scan,i feel exactly the same way,i cant tell u how many pregnancy tests i have taken,im hoping the scan tomorro puts my anxietys to rest..i do have severe morning sickness this time though as well. Christine
  • I had the same with my boy, no symptoms at all beside no monthly, positive test didnt come up until 3 weeks past due for it either. A ultrasound might put your mind at ease but its hard not thinking or worrying about it, usually they are done at 6 weeks for dates and heartbeat fingers crossed for you x Catherine
  • I suffered from anxiety before I fell pregnant medication as well which I have up as soon as the positive test came back I had a stressful pregnancy due to personal issues and was in the same boat worrying every minute pretty sure my doc got sick of my weekly visits and although she came 3.5 weeks early she is healthy and happy. Anxiety sux big time I done a lot of breathing exercises when I felt anxious really helped me through recommend trying them xx JaiLeen
  • Hope it all goes well for you, think positive xo Jessica
  • It’s hard to offer advice but I say just take each day as it comes and just try not to overthink it because the added stress won’t help. I had 2 healthy kids then 5 miscarriages with one at 12 weeks, and when I finally got pregnant with my now 2 year old I felt the same and was sure I would miscarry, I just tried to get through each day and when I hit 7 weeks I thought ok I better get a scan and then when that was fine and I hit 8 weeks I went to the OB, each week I hit a milestone I felt a little less stressed and once I held him it was all gone. It’s not at all easy I know how you feel, I would always think I would see blood when I went to the toilet too, Kelly
  • Without sounding like a broken record try and relax. As they say stress isn’t good for the baby. If it’s meant to be it will be etc etc but I guess in situations like this it’s true. Every pregnancy is different so try not to focus too much on the symptoms you are/aren’t having. Some mums have identical pregnancies for their 1st and 2nd then the 3rd is completely different! Just try and take care of yourself. You’ve already had 3 beautiful babies so you know that your body is able to produce them and the 4th will be the exact same. There’s a reason miscarriages happen, although the reason is sometimes unknown there is always a reason. So try and rest assured that your body is working hard to protect and develop a beautiful healthy new baby for your family. Kylie
  • Oh darl…. Sending you loads of universal hugs & protective white light for you & your lil one…. Nothing anyone can say or do will help reduce your anxiety….. We can only suggest you try your best to stop take deep breaths, try to do some meditation, listen to some positive thinking meditation to help just calm your mind & your body to help get you through this stage until you know all is well…. We know it’s easier said then done but pls just try to keep yourself calm, relaxed & visualise bubs continuing to grow & be strong & kicking before you know it….. Stay strong Sherree
  • I felt the same when I was pregnant too. I just took it week by week. Try not to worry too much as that isn’t good for you at this time. Sending you best wishes Bronwen
  • Iv miscarried 2x in the last few months myself. I was told their was nothing I could do it just wasn’t ment to be. It’s not your fault. Try not to think about it, take it easy and fingers crossed it works out Stephanie
  • I’ve had mc’s before I got my LO. I had been trying for an unbelievable amount of time. With her I changed how I thought. I just revelled in being pregnant. I didn’t think about a baby growing until the 18 week scan. I didn’t test, do ultrasounds buy baby things, talk about the baby. I just enjoyed being pregnant. I didn’t really expect bub to stick around. I found it helped me relax compared to other mums checking hcg levels, doing tests all the time. Good luck and congratulations. Enjoy your tummy. Shelley
  • I had 2 babies then 2 m/c then 2 more babies. I didnt relax after the m/c till birth. Just live one day at a time hun and maybe buy a dopler wen u r 12 weeks so u can hear heartbeat to reassure urself x inbox if u need more info or a listening ear Cathy
  • Don’t be so harsh on yourself Hun.. It can be very depressing and traumatizing for you and the baby. Take each day as it comes, pray and hope for the best xxx Rima
  • You poor thing. Just try an relax and be happy, stressing yourself out isn’t going to help anything, if the baby is meant to be it will. Pray or meditate if it helps you ( even if not religious ) Good luck hun. Xx Stacey
  • I have bleed every month so far this pregnancy but had nothing of the sort last pregnancy so don’t stress about going to the toilet and seeing blood . Because it can be completely normal. Chantel
  • Shame I am so sorry you are feeling like this. There is nothing we can say to make you feel better but try and relax and know that what will be will be. The calmer you can stay the better (of course you already know that)! Kate
  • It’s out if your control so there’s nothing you can do. Go on with everyday normally until 12 weeks Natalie
  • I didn’t have any symptoms except not a normal period, if u just relax n let things b it may wrk out. sorry I can’t help more. All the best xx Salena
  • What is meant to be will be. The more relaxed you are, the more success the pregnancy will have. It’s tough losing babies, but it is biology and hard to prevent. All you can do is hope for the best, which I’m sure will happen. Catherine
  • Try not to worry so much so u dont put stress on baby. I will keep you and baby in my prayers Ashley
  • The more u worry your putting stress on u and baby just relax and let things happen in whatever it goes you will be fine. Maybe try rest as much as possible eat healthy and drink plenty water take folic acid Wendy


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