We asked our community whether they’d found dreams about baby gender to be accurate gender predictors. Predicting your baby’s gender is either an art or a science depending on who you ask, so we asked our mums their top tips.
Psychoanalysis – What Sigmund Freud would say about gender dreams
While Freud is pretty widely ignored these days, he lead the way in dream analysis with his work The Interpretation of Dreams. There’s a lot of theories about symbolism in dreams but the leading theory to follow on interpreting dreams about babies is not the baby or baby gender itself but how you feel about the baby in the dream. If you dream you have a boy growing in your womb, the most important thing is to note how you feel about that boy. Are you comfortable caring for the boy? Is the boy well and thriving? These will tell you more about your own anticipation of the new baby than about the actual gender. If you feel that a boy would be a gender disappointment and yet in your dream your son is healthy and thriving then perhaps your subconscious is telling you that you’ll be a great mum to a boy.
Is your baby all wet in the dream? One of the more popular dream symbols Freud discussed was water symbolising your emotions. If you’re hoping for a boy but you’re dreaming of a girl who is all wet and squishy, then it may be your sub-conscious telling you that you’re emotionally OK with a little girl!
When you have nightmares about your baby
It’s pretty common to have bad dreams while pregnant and some can be very upsetting. Dreaming about a long or difficult birth can signify that you’re warn out with waiting to meet your little one, not that you’re going to have a rough time in the delivery room. Dreaming about baby loss, although terribly upsetting can simply be your sub-conscious working through a project in your life that isn’t going as planned. It may also be a hint at your sub-conscious fearing the big changes coming and how those will impact your freedoms pre-baby. It has no baring at all on the state of your pregnancy. If your dreams are upsetting you though, get your doctor to do a health check on your baby just to be sure and then recommend some treatments for pre-natal anxiety.
So are dreams about baby gender ever a gender predictor in pregnancy?
We polled our audience and found that many mums-too-be had dreamt of their baby’s gender during pregnancy. Were those dreams accurate? The answer – The jury is out. Like you might expect, it was about 50/50 accurate and inaccurate. Roughly in line with the natural split of boy/girl births.
Here’s what our mums said:
- I was convinced I was having a boy, had a dream I was pregnant with a girl, ended up having a girl Brooke
- Let’s just say that my little ‘Meghan’ is doing an incredible impression of a nearly 12yo Daniel … Kyra
- Accurate for my first.. didn’t really have any dreams with my 2nd, although I was convinced I was having a girl, but ended up with a boy. Andrea
- It was strange. I dreamt girl girl girl until 19 weeks then dreamt boy and it was much stronger than the girl dreams. A week later, the winner is boy. I still get the girl dreams but I just remember that my boy dream was much more vivid and felt more ‘real’. Adele
- I dreamt very vividly several times that I had a boy, weight and date etc to the point where I woke up looking for my baby boy and I had a girl!! I also had a dream that my grandma (who passed away just after I fell pregnant) was rubbing my pregnant belly (so baby was not born yet in this dream) saying “be a good little girl, come on little girl” so for me, I dreamt I was holding a boy but had the opposite!! Monique
- First was accurate and have had boy dreams for number 2. Will find out if it is true.. Kara
- Both my husband and I dreamt about girls… didn’t know the gender. Had a baby girl. Teagan
- I had a dream at around 10weeks pregnant (now 28weeks pregnant) that I was having a boy and the dream was right! Everything that happened in my dream actually happened ! So very accurate for me. Jamielee
- I dreamt every night I was having a boy! I convinced myself that it was gonna be a boy and we now have a beautiful 4 month old girl! Even after finding out she was a girl I still kept dreaming boy haha! Jay
- I had a dream at 15 weeks pregnant that i was having a girl and at 20 weeks i had my ultrasound and was in fact having a girl i even knew what she was gonna look like she is now 3 months old eveything i ever expected. Michelle
- accurate. My hubby was 99% sure it was a boy, so I just went along with him. I had only 1 dream about the baby during my pregnancy – we had friends over and the baby woke up, I picked up a little girl out of the cot. We had a little girl. Jessica
- Accurate! Told I was having a girl, dreamt boy… Had a boy! Joanne-Claire
- Dreams were right-I thought boy but dreamt of a girl and had a girl. Only ever had this with my first born though…I found out the sex of my other three and never dreamt about them being babies! Nadia
- Kept dreaming of a girl even tho was convinced I would have a boy, and ended up with a girl! Shelley
- I dreamt I was having a boy, same night hubby dreamt we were in mauritius with a little girl around 17-18 months old. We had a girl and we are going to Mauritius she will be 16 months Regine
- My dreams were accurate, hubby’s were not! Sarah
- I didn’t have any dreams myself but the day I told my mum I was pregnant (6 weeks), she said she had a dream I had a little boy. She was spot on! Sarah
- I had several dreams of boy babies that were meant to be my baby but they looked strange or nothing like my husband and I. Then I had a dream about this beautiful little girl who looked just like me as a baby. It felt and looked like my baby and it was the last gender dream I had. I ended up having a girl. Samara
- Nope didn’t mean anything. I dreamt I was having a girl so many times and I’ve got a little boy. Also none of the old wives takes worked for me. Did the ring test and Chinese gender thing and was also wrong! Krystal
- From the moment that I was pregnant I had a feeling it was a boy! I was correct. Kat
- Not accurate. I had about 5 dreams about my bub, all times it was a girl in my dreams, and we had a boy! Jevita
- Mine was accurate. Dreamt it was a girl at 6weeks. Have also dreamt of other friends babies and been accurate with them too.. Sharon
- Not accurate. Each time I was pregnant I dreamt I was having girls……I had 4 boys Amanda
- Dreamt I had a girl even though family and work colleagues said I was having a boy and I had a girl Ebony
- I dreamt I was having a girl and have found out I am having a boy Gemma
- Accurate. Felt I was having a girl until 20wks. Then I had to separate dreams of labour ending in a boy. 4 days before our due date, our perfect lil man arrived Jessica
- I had three vivid gender dreams while pregnant 2 x boy, 1 x girl and from very early on I had a strong inkling that we were having a boy. We didn’t found until bub arrived and … my gut was right! Bouncing baby boy Emily
- Correct with my 1st two wrong with my 3rd. Amie