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Doctor recommended caesarean

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I went to my doctor today for my checkup. I am currently 38 weeks along. He said to me he would recommend a c section as it is a big baby and because I am small with narrow hips it could make a mess of things if I give birth naturally. As this is my first I am very nervous about a c section and normal delivery, getting a nit anxious. Basically I’m just wondering if anyone else’s situation was similar and what they chose to do as I would rather the safest option for myself and my baby.

  • The majority of women have a very similar sized pelvis. I is the internal diameters that are important not whether you are a size 6 or a size 16. Your pelvis is also designed to soften and give a little when you are in labour, that is what all those lovely hormones are for. Like someone has already said “big baby” seems to be a reason commonly used by obstetricians when it is more convenient for them to do a caesarean. You wouldn’t happen to be due over the christmas and new year period would you? Even ultrasound in the late stages of pregnancy are only accurate to +/- 10 to 20%. Does your obstetrician really think your baby will be over 4.5kgs? That is considered the upper end of normal. A caesarean this time also impacts on your future births so do more research and ask more questions. Don’t be scared and if in the end you do decide to go for a caesar, do it knowing that you were well informed.
  • Dr’s aren’t always right! I had a whopper 5kg birthweight child but apparently my baby was normal size(3-3.5kg)..even after several ultrasounds, nooone believed me!! do what you feel is right!
  • Do you trust your doc??? i have always been told (pardon the graphic image here) that it is the size of the cervix not the hips and they do not necessarily correlate. that being said trust your instincts, i have only the one bub who was 8lb 3oz or 3.7kg not huge but definitely not small.
  • Don’t let them make you doubt yourself, a woman’s body is designed to have babies so trust your body, don’t let them bully you
  • Go with your gut feeling. I was offered both natural & c-section due to complications & a big baby, but was pushed more towards natural. I was hesitant & thought c-section was best but i ended up choosing natural. Honestly it was horrible, I lost massive clots & my son ended up getting stuck so I ended up with a c-section, which is what my gut told me to go for. Every mother should be given the opportunity to give birth naturally.
  • Small people have big babies all the time, what evidence is there that you will actually be unable to deliver naturally other than your size? What exactly is this “mess” doc is referring to? Don’t let anyone scare you into thinking you don’t have a choice, you do! Get your research on, get that information into your head and prove that doc wrong. Of course if something is up then keep yourself and bub safe, but you being small and bub being big is no reason to automatically book a caeser. Check out Birth Without Fear on FB, they have GREAT support, and will be able to give you heaps of inspiration and advice. Good luck!!
  • I had a similar situation with the delivery of my baby boy, I had placenta previa, but there was a tiny tiny gap between the birth canal and placenta, the doctors had recommended a csection to be safe in case of haemorrhage. But if i really wanted a natural birth I could try. Luckily we decided on the csection as once the placenta was removed, it was discovered the main artery the thickness of a pointer finger was sitting between the birth canal and placenta and if it had burst the surgeon said to my husband he most likely would have lost wife and baby. Sorry for T.M.I..
  • I’m tiny (46 kg n 34 weeks preg ) nd was worried about having trouble giving birth naturally I had 8 pound bub which I thought was big enough lol so how big do they think bub is ? My sister is a big girl n she had to have c sections so I don’t think its got to do with being small I no a women who is tinnier then me n her bub was like 9 Pound something all natural n all well! I’d be getting a 2nd opinion!
  • Drs def arnt always right- my mum got told while pregnant with me to have a c-section because I was too big but she went natural and I was 8lb 8oz. she then fell pregnant with my sister and they said she was average size, mum tired natural …THEN they said she had to have an emergency c-section, turns out my sister was 9lb 11oz! lol your body is designed to give birth if you think you can do it give it a go 🙂 if not don’t. your body will tell you and if you decide not to that’s fine too 🙂 good luck!!
  • I know that some drs that aren’t right but they also don’t usually opt for a c-section unless it’s necessary. My friend had 2 huge bubs & is small & had horrendous tearing & the possibility of an emergency c-section with 1. Both natural & c-section have advantages & disadvantages but if it is a question of safety, I would opt for what your dr has recommended.
  • I had the opposite happen I am tall (175cm) and have normal hips (size 12) and my first was 9lb2oz and had 49.5hrs labour then told that I need a c sect coz bubs head was too big I chose a c sect over forceps and lucky I did as bubs he…ad would of broken my pelvis. My doc was stunned that I couldnt do it naturally because my body was in proportion enough and was upset with myself after as I wanted to do natural but sometimes don’t work out. I would take it as it comes and what you are comfy with if a natural labour doesnt work there is the c sect alternative they will monitor baby during labour and if baby cant cope they will recommend emergency c sect… and you being nervous is totally normal 🙂 Good luck with it all!
  • I had my son 4months ago at 38weeks, I was induced because of his size. I’m 5ft 6 but a small frame – I had SPD and my back was hyper extending and causing me a lot of pain. I had a great obs who knew how important it was for me to birth na…turally, hence the joint decision to induce me.  In the end I had a very positive experience, so much better than my first birth (posterior, and soooo long), he was 8pd 12oz and birthed in 2 pushes after a 5-hour active labour. We were shocked he was so big, we were aiming for the size of my first son (8pd even)… I had a large-ish baby and a whole lotta fluid!! I suggest going through with it with as much information as possible and stick to what your gut says. C-sections (from what I have heard) are certainly not the easy way out, there’s a lot of healing/pain and so often it’s done as a means to make things easier for the doctors. If you are nervous, or have your heart set on a natural birth, discuss this with them, that’s what they’re there for. Have an open mind that it may not work out, but also discuss your course of action before the event so you’re informed with time to ask questions etc. good luck!!
  • Do what you think is right for you, doctors arent always right, in ultrasounds i was told i will have a short baby and at 5mo he is in the 90th percentile for his height. It is possible to have a big baby naturally when you are small it has been done! I had a c/s and i would have preferred natural (bubs wouldnt let it happen!) the pain is extremely uncomfortable (sorry if i scared u 🙁 ) you are allowed to say no to it unless bubs is in distress like mine was, you know your body better than anyone 🙂 good luck with your decision
  • I am tiny 5footnothing 43kg and I had a 10pound DS naturally! I was pretty shocked when I saw the size of him after my 1st DD was only 6pound6! Lol. And his birth was actually easier!
  • This is a common ‘excuse’ many obs give to mums which as mentioned above is not necessarily the case, trust your body to birth your baby the best you can, also do some research and really understand for yourself ‘what mess’ he is referring …to, he should really be empowering you not filling you with fear if not at all necessary…trust your body it will work out….definitely go to the birth with out fear link and most of all try not to be afraid you will be ok
  • My obgyn never suggested a c-section even tho we knew he would be big she just said we will wait and see what happens.
  • I had a low lying placenta and was given the choice, to the doctor’s it’s a numbers game – what is the option with the least risks to you both. There will be plenty of stories one way or the other however if you believe the doctor is decent then he will be advising you statistically the best option. If you have a strong desire for a natural birth get some more info about what he thinks the risks associated with it are, I was advised there was a high chance a would need a ceaser and that they preferred not to do an emergency because that involves a general and you are not awake for the birth I was told this had greater risks for the baby. If you do go for a ceaser don’t freak I was so nervous about how I would cope whilst it was being done what it would feel like e.t.c During the op it does not hurt it’s over quite quick your adrenaline kicks in and before long you will be meeting your baby. Yes it hurts afterwards but you are so pre occupied with bubs that you deal with it for this reason Motivation only I think it is the easiest op to recover from!
  • I always saw c sections as the easy way out, after 2 of my close friends had one I would rather go through my labour again then what they endured. They couldn’t even hold their babies after it for a week and they’re still healing 6 months on. If you believe you can do it natural! Go for it! Your body will love you!
  • I’m a small build too and my first son was 8lbs 10.5 and my next daughter was 7lbs 6. Both natural and while not easy,… Best for me and Bubba. I knew what I wanted and didn’t deviate from what I felt was right. Go with your gut instinct, its rarely wrong!
  • I was told my boy was an average sized baby the day before i had him…i was induced because my waters had prematurely ruptured…did 10 hours labour and got no-where, only dilated to 2cm and my doc suggested i have c-section (bubs was also in distress by that point) i went with my gut, i KNEW i had a big baby but none of the docs or midwives believed me because as they said to me multiple times ‘the ultrasound doesnt lie’ yeh right! according to the ultrasounds i was 39+1wks and had an average sized baby…when my son was born the doc said he was only 37 weeks max and he was 8 pound 3…im usually only 49kg and 5ft 1…after my c-section the docs told me even if my labour had of progressed theres no way i could have had him naturally as when they pulled him out of my belly his head and shoulders were stuck in my pelvis… if doc says ur baby wont fit then theres a very small chance he could be wrong but is it really worth risking it?…i truly believe if i had of had a natural my recovery would have been alot harder simply due to mine and bubs sizes. i was given the all clear to go back to doing everything after 2 weeks..i dont regret choosing the cesarean at all
  • If it was me (and I am saying this not having had a very big baby) I would prefer a wait and see approach. Obviously there may be other issues involved but sometimes OBs can be a little c-section happy and just because it is suggested doesn’t necessarily mean it will be the only option. If you are unsure then definitely talk to them about it and if you are keen to see if you can deliver naturally then tell them that. In the end it may not be an option but at least you’ve had a chance to explore all your options. Good luck!
  • I had a low lying placenta and a baby who was still breech at 37 weeks and was being pressured to have a cesarean. The doc said the placenta was borderline and it was my choice to go ahead naturally and was supportive of my want to have natural. i’m so glad i didn’t go with the cesarean as my son turned last minute and i had an amazing natural labour and birth, after my waters broke at 38 weeks. Trust your instincts and what you want to do. If you want to go naturally and there is no medical reasons ie. Placenta praevia, breech etc, then by all means go for it. That being said i had a 6lb 3oz baby so him being big was never the issue, was always him being too small. Have you thought about early induction perhaps if you are concerned about size? But also with inductions can come more complications. At the end of the day, do what you feel is best for you and your baby and don’t feel pressured into a decision you’re not comfortable with! Goodluck with whatever you choose!
  • My doc said I was carrying a big baby…well he was born 6pd 15oz!! So yes doctors aren’t always right! I have a family friend who is a size 24-26 and can’t have natural births due to the size of her pelvis so it’s more to do with that measurement!
  • I am a size twelve with little hips my first baby was huge i ended up being 137cms round the day i had him he weighed 9 pounds 13ounces yes i had stitches but only a few womens bodies are made to stretch for child birth and if in the process of labour u or ur baby r in distress ur average hospital can have u in surgery and baby out in under 5 min all i wud say is recovery time from vaginal birth is soooo much easier than c section and if u go c section then they will push it on u if u have another child
  • I would try naturally first if you can. I was told the same thing with my first baby and because he and I weren’t showing any signs of being ready I had an elective c-section a few days after my due date. He was 9 pound 1 ounce. I wish I had been strong and confident enough to say no I want to wait and see what happens as I then had another two elective c-sections after that. I always wonder could I have had my babies naturally and it really does upset me at times.
  • I’m under 5 foot & slim & was given the same options as you, even though they knew my bub wasn’t huge. I opted for natural & it was awful! 24hrs labour & then emergency c-section. He only weighed 7pound so def not a giant! It was discovered afterwards that I had cephela pelvic disproportion (CPD) so for my second child I opted for the c-section straight away. C-sections are fine if you go that way!
  • I have “small hips” and had two big babies virginally. Second was 9 pounds, active induced labour no epi, no foresips nothing. I did have stitches. I’m 5’2 you can totally do this naturally if you want.
  • I’m not a dr but I can tell you my son always measured 4 – 5 cm bigger per week and on the 97% at scans, at my 36 week check up the dr told me he was 11 pounds and to have a c section, I talked to him about what would happen if I tried for a natural birth, he told me there would be signs during labour if he wasn’t coming out and they would take me for a c section. I just knew my son was not that big so went for natural birth and after 26 hours of drug free labour (except gas) my 8.13 pound son was born. They can get it very wrong with how big or small the baby will be. Good luck with your birth
  • You carried you baby for 9 months and you will care for your baby for the rest of your lives. With regards to the birth, do whatever you feel is right! It’s a small part of being a mother. It’s what comes after the is the real challenge! Good luck, no matter what you decide.

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